This is Laura, private Tantra guide for couples in Amsterdam
“This life! You have to feel it!”
… I wrote this in my notebook during a Tantra retreat.
When I close my eyes and bring my awareness into my body, I can immediately feel it: the pulsating aliveness there. Tantra has paved the way for me to experience life to the fullest.
Before, my thoughts were keeping me away from the sensations and feelings in my body. As soon as I become aware of them, I can actively choose to shift my attention back into my body.
There is so much more sensitivity there… and exactly this makes it quite easy to experience that vitality.
When people ask me what the impact of Tantra has been on me, I say: ‘Freedom’.
I used to be focused on my plans for the future – on what should happen – and on the past: on what had already happened.
By being curious what is happening at this moment, nothing needs to be different than it is. This gives me a tremendous feeling of freedom.
Tantra made me a better partner
I started Tantra when I was single. Practicing Tantra alone and together with my current beloved Joost, has been very valuable for my personal development and for our relationship.
I used to be quite, well… intense towards my loved ones. Whenever I felt powerless or overwhelmed, the shrew in me would come out. I would accuse my partner (‘You, you, you!’), criticize him, and demand that he’d behave different. I could really be quite nasty.
Nowadays I hardly seem to do this anymore. Tantra taught me that what I feel is never really the other person’s fault. What they say or do simply trigger an old wound, waiting to come to the light. And now, I often succeed to communicate about the pain that is in me, so my beloved can relax.
Most of the time. Most of the time, it works. And sometimes it fails. Now that we are parents, responsible for our toddler, there are new challenges and triggers. Sometimes we do go to bed with an unsolved argue. Still, I am so happy with the foundation we have; the common language we have developed together.
Tantra has definitely made me a better partner.
Tantra & Sex
My parents were very sex positive. I’ve always had a fairly easy relationship with sex, and for this I feel lucky.
When I was a teenager, I embarked on a great journey of sexual discovery. I (almost always) made love with people who were kind to me. In sex, I felt curious and connected.
When I started with Tantra, I got to know my own body even better. My view of sex broadened: it was so much more than what I already knew! But because I always felt comfortable with the standard forms of sex, my drive to experience sex in a more ‘Tantric’ way was never that great.
Until I got pregnant.
During my pregnancy, and especially afterwards, sex became a more complex subject. My body, now mostly in the service of this little creature, doesn’t long for sex so naturally. Or I should say: ‘in sex as I knew it’?
I still sometimes have critical thoughts about the frequency (it should be more often) or what we do in sex (it’s actually not complete without penetration). But especially now, as a young mother, Tantra turns out to make a fundamental difference in my experience and understanding of sex.
Everything is Sex
Every time we make love, Tantra helps me to feel what it’s really about: two bodies coming together with the intention to connect. From there, we simply see what happens.
Sometimes we lie close to each other and speak about what is going on within us. Sometimes there is passion. Sometimes it is slow and gentle.
Sex can have so many colours.
The premise of Tantra is that everything in life is sex (or sexual energy). This allows me to let go of the images of how our sex life used to be, and making an effort to recreate it.
Perhaps on day our sex will be again what it was before my pregnancy. But in this period of our lives, our intimacy looks very different.
And t’s actually quite good.
Why I teach Tantra
When I discovered Tantra, I immediately felt: this suits me so well! I immersed myself in it completely and attended various retreats at different schools. I noticed that what I learned, became a natural part of my daily life. My teachers asked me assist them and and eventually to teach alongside them.
I love it when people open up. As they start letting in the beauty of life more fully, they become so much more sensitive. Old patterns start to shake. A feeling of deep connection arises.
Guiding couples holds a special place in my heart. After a private session with couples, I often see a softness in the faces before me.
It fulfills me greatly to see how Tantra opens up more possibilities in a relationship. I feel deeply grateful that I get to play a role in this process of unfolding.
– Laura offers private Tantra sessions for couples in Amsterdam. In the online agenda below you will find her availability and reserve your spot.
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How Laura and her sessions are described by our clients:
‘Laura helped us to make the shift: Instead of ‘what we could do’, she gave us practical and concrete tips that helped us move forward. By truly taking time for each other and combine that with exercises, my beloved and I have grown closer to each other..’
– Jaco
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