This is Laura, private Tantra guide for couples in Amsterdam
“This life! You have to feel it!”
… I wrote this in my notebook during a Tantra retreat.
When I close my eyes and simply bring my attention to my body, I can already feel it: the effervescence of my body, a growing meaning in life. Tantra has paved the way for me to feel my aliveness to the fullest.
In Tantra I have learned to recognize that it is my brain that holds me back. When I am aware of that, I can actively bring my attention back into my body. I have become so much more sensitive in my body… which actually makes it quite easy to experience that vitality.
When people ask me what the impact of Tantra has been on me, I often say: ‘Freedom’.
I used to be focused on my plans for the future, on what happened in the past, or my beliefs what should happen. By being curious what is happening in me at this moment, nothing needs to be different than it is. I no longer need to meet expectations. I no longer need to hold back or change my experience. That gives a tremendous feeling of freedom.
Tantra made me a better partner
I started Tantra when I was single. Later, I started practicing with my partner. Both periods have been very valuable for my personal development and for our relationship. I used to be quite, well… intense towards my loved ones. When I felt powerless, the witch in me would come out. I would accuse them (‘You, you, you!’), criticize them, and demand that they behave differently than they did. I could really be quite nasty.
Nowadays I hardly seem to do this anymore. Tantra taught me that what I feel is never really the other person’s fault. They may trigger something that was already sensitive for me. And now, I often succeed to communicate that in such a way that it’s not my partner’s fault.
Most of the time. Most of the time, it works. And sometimes it fails. Now that we are jointly responsible for our baby, there are new challenges and triggers. And sometimes moments of going to bed angry. But, I am so happy with the foundation we have. The common language we have developed together. Tantra has definitely made me a better partner.
Tantra & Sex
I’m very lucky that I’ve always had a fairly easy relationship with sex. My parents gave me positive messages about it. When I was a teenager, I embarked on a great journey of sexual discovery. I made love (almost always) to people who were kind to me. In sex, I felt curious and connected. When I started with Tantra, more and more stigmas fell away and I got to know my own body even better. My view of sex broadened: it was so much more than what I already knew!
Because I always liked the standard forms of sex, my drive to experience sex in a more ‘Tantric’ way was never that great. Until I got pregnant in 2023. During my pregnancy, and especially afterwards, sex became a more complex subject. My body, now mostly in the service of this little creature, didn’t long for sex so naturally. Or I should say: ‘in sex as I knew it’
Especially now, as a young mother, Tantra turn out to make a fundamental difference in my experience and understanding of sex. I still sometimes have critical thoughts about the frequency (it should be more often) or what we do in sex (it’s actually not complete without penetration).
Everything is Sex
Every time Tantra helps me to feel what it’s really about: two bodies coming together with the intention to connect. From there, we simply see what arises.
Sometimes we lie close to each other and speak out what is going on within us. Sometimes there is passion. Sometimes it is slow and gentle. It turns out there are so many possible colors.
The premise of Tantra is that everything in life is sex, or sexual energy. That means that I don’t have to hold on so tightly how our sex life used to be.
Perhaps our sex will be the same as it was before my pregnancy, but in this period of our lives, our intimacy looks different. And it’s actually quite fine.
Why I teach Tantra
When I discovered Tantra, I immediately felt: this suits me so well! I immersed myself in it completely and attended various retreats at different schools. I noticed that what I learned, became a natural part of my daily life. My teachers asked me assist them and and eventually to teach alongside them.
I enjoy seeing people open up every time, with small or big steps. I see them become more sensitive and letting in the beauty of life more fully. Old patterns start to shake, deeper connections arise – with themselves and with each other.
Guiding couples holds a special place in my heart. After a private session with couples, I see the softness in their faces and it fulfills me to see how, to a greater or lesser extent, Tantra opens up more possibilities in their relationship. I feel very grateful that I get to play a role in this!
Laura offers private Tantra sessions for couples in Amsterdam. In the online agenda below you will find her availability and reserve your spot.
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How Laura and her sessions are described by our clients:
‘Laura helped us to make the shift: Instead of ‘what we could do’, she gave us practical and concrete tips that helped us move forward. By truly taking time for each other and combine that with exercises, my beloved and I have grown closer to each other..’
– Jaco
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